TRUST ! A simple five letter word, but it contains the foundation of each and every relationship that mankind has created, be it co-dependent like the spouse, controlling like parents, emotional like children, open like friends, compatible like colleagues or complicated like lovers.
It take so much effort to build it, framing with time, assembling respect, laying brick by brick of loyalty, leveling with compatibility, cementing with expectations that were realised, adding the mortar of adjustments and then we see a wall of trust, that stands strong and tall, a support to fall back on during trying times. It will take just one smash of the hammer of betrayal to wreck it, one small crack of doubt in its joints can crumble it to dust, one thrust of insecurity will tear it down to a mess that can never be put back again, the wall will never stand again, at least not as tall, not as strong.
Some people trust easily, some after a lot of speculation, but we all want to believe in the end because only then we are able to feel safe and secure in someone’s company. It is necessary for any bond to grow on us. My mother trusts everyone very easily and completely, she once let her friend borrow her jewellery for a very special occasion. My mother had bought it with her money, the ones she saved over years and years, it was her most prized possession, and she was in love with it. My aunt wore it and was complimented thoroughly, but when she was to return it to her, she made excuses, that she has no one to drop it, that she needs someone trustworthy to send it with and so on. My Mother trusted her and let her keep it till they met next time. Meanwhile, my mother went to some business function with my father, she was shocked to see a stranger wearing her jewellery. At first, she thought she is mistaken, it must be a look-alike, of course, there can be more than two sets in the same design. She took a closer look at the woman wearing it and saw that it was smudged on edge(she has smudged the edge of hers on an Almira). She was shocked and hurt, she never said a single word to my father or to her friend, but she was heartbroken and feeling betrayed.
She was not sad that her friend lent her jewellery to someone without her permission, but she was saddened by the fact that her friend couldn’t or wouldn’t keep her trust. She valued her friendship much cheaper than the piece of jewellery, she found it alright to breach her faith for someone else. That day she was not grieving her materialistic stuff, but she was mourning her friend and the bond they shared, she knew it will never be the same again amongst them, she can never confide in her like she used to, never treat her like a secret keeper.
Trust is a synonym for love is you like me, when you love, you trust and when you trust, then only you are free to love. It’s like the litmus paper test, if love is present, know that faith is also present. Do not cheat, do not lie, be there for them, know that they love you, don’t worry about breaking up, stick by them, be loyal, have faith, respect, rely upon, be assured, care, protect, confide, confess, hope, expect and finally TRUST !!!